http://www.time4mom.net/stay-at-home-mom/ Mon, 19 Apr 2010 02:26:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.time4mom.net/stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-138 Suzanne Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:41:22 +0000 http://www.time4mom.net/?p=336#comment-138 I am not a SAHM so I can't offer that perspective but I do have a few suggestions. 1 is you get an allowance and so does DH. This is not you "asking Daddy" as you are both getting it - it's simply another line in the budget - as you said whatever your budget allows. My 2nd suggestion is that you spend that $ in some part on new clothes, makeup, etc. just so you will feel better about yourself - if you feel beautiful and confident, you ARE beautiful and confident! Since you are sick it might be just a little boost for you and I'm betting DH won't mind seeing his gorgeous wife all dolled up either! Lastly (and most importantly) make a list of all that you do day in and day out. Read it and file it away. When you do something new or remember something that is not on the list, add it. Pull it out every time you get the foolish notion that you are not contributing!!! You might not get a paycheck but you are contributing so much! It's time to give yourself some praise for all that you are doing and bury some of the guilt for the things you aren't able to do right now. Take it from a Working Outside of the Home Mom - we all have our guilt about what we are and aren't doing. I feel guilty about not being there for my children as much as I would like to be (something you ARE doing). It is human nature to think the grass is always greener... I am not a SAHM so I can’t offer that perspective but I do have a few suggestions. 1 is you get an allowance and so does DH. This is not you “asking Daddy” as you are both getting it – it’s simply another line in the budget – as you said whatever your budget allows. My 2nd suggestion is that you spend that $ in some part on new clothes, makeup, etc. just so you will feel better about yourself – if you feel beautiful and confident, you ARE beautiful and confident! Since you are sick it might be just a little boost for you and I’m betting DH won’t mind seeing his gorgeous wife all dolled up either! Lastly (and most importantly) make a list of all that you do day in and day out. Read it and file it away. When you do something new or remember something that is not on the list, add it. Pull it out every time you get the foolish notion that you are not contributing!!! You might not get a paycheck but you are contributing so much! It’s time to give yourself some praise for all that you are doing and bury some of the guilt for the things you aren’t able to do right now. Take it from a Working Outside of the Home Mom – we all have our guilt about what we are and aren’t doing. I feel guilty about not being there for my children as much as I would like to be (something you ARE doing). It is human nature to think the grass is always greener…

]]> http://www.time4mom.net/stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Kim Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:46:31 +0000 http://www.time4mom.net/?p=336#comment-137 I, like you, never knew how much money we had. Once I became a SAHM I started to get more involved in our finances, I started to clip coupons and shop for sale items. Even though you are not earning any money from an employer, you are saving your family money by doing these things also. You also need to do things for yourself every once in a while, so don't feel guilty about it!!! I, like you, never knew how much money we had. Once I became a SAHM I started to get more involved in our finances, I started to clip coupons and shop for sale items. Even though you are not earning any money from an employer, you are saving your family money by doing these things also. You also need to do things for yourself every once in a while, so don’t feel guilty about it!!!

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